All couples go through different relationship moods, some good and some not so great. The question is, how normal is the level of bad moods you’re experiencing?
Is it impacting your quality of life? And how does it make you feel?
If your partner seems to have moods that change with the wind, it can feel quite overwhelming. The important thing is to know the difference between a bad day and something more serious.
# Don’t take it personally
If they’re just in a crappy mood, it probably has nothing to do with you or your behavior. But if your significant other is taking their mood out on you? That’s a problem. You could be looking at a relationship red flag.
But if they’re managing to keep their grump to themselves and you can just tell that’s what’s going on, don’t sweat it. Their mood is their responsibility to manage. You’re not in control of their emotions.
# Offer support
While relationship moods come in many different varieties, this is a move that should work for any of them. If you’re having a bad day, your other half holding your hand through it helps, right? Exactly.
Offering support does not mean you can fix the problem for them, it just means being there for them. Ask if they need anything to help them destress or if they’d like someone to listen while they vent.
# Give them some space
Sometimes the best gift you can give your moody partner is the gift of space, whatever that looks like for the two of you.
Do you live together? Maybe you can spend the evening in a separate room. Are you in constant contact with your partner throughout the day? Let them know you’re giving them some time alone, and then don’t text for a few hours.
# Talk through the relationship moods
If you feel your partner’s mood swings are really affecting your relationship, it’s important to discuss that with them.
Calmly explain how you feel and why you’re concerned. We advise doing this when you’re both feeling calm, not when your partner is feeling low.
Asking your partner why this is happening so much might yield some surprising answers. And being open and honest with each other will bring you two closer.
# Be vulnerable
It’s okay to be open and honest with your partner about how their moodiness is affecting you. It’s possible that they’re unaware of how they’re coming across when they’re in a bad mood, or they just haven’t thought about it.
If you haven’t told them how their moods can make you feel before, now is the time to disclose that. It doesn’t have to be in a blaming or shaming way, but sharing your feelings is an important part of a healthy partnership.
# Take care of yourself
Learning to separate your well-being from your partner is a vital skill. If they’re in a bad place? You can support them, without always being there with them.
Of course, seeing your partner go through something or feel down is tough and it’s only natural to feel for them. But if you can, remember to take the time to care for yourself.